What is counselling and how does it work?
Counselling gives you time and space to reflect on and think about yourself. People find it helpful for different reasons. It can:
Help you talk about difficulties that you’ve never shared before
Explore yourself, your relationships and life problems, and help you make sense of them
Relieve stress and enable you to learn better coping strategies
Feel heard and empowered in a safe setting
Counselling isn’t giving advice, it’s about supporting you as you find your own solutions, and helping you build your confidence and self-esteem.
My experience of counselling diverse people has included working with feelings of depression, loneliness, grief, anxiety, hopelessness, existential struggles, anger, and work stress. Although not a couples/relationship counsellor, I’ve been able to successfully help individuals with relationship problems also. I bring a wealth of life experience to working with people, always treating the individual as a whole person, not a diagnosis. Counselling can include a range of techniques including talking, creative exercises, and breathing exercises; we will discuss and agree how we will work together.
I believe the best person to help someone who is troubled is someone who, like me, has known trouble and got through it. There are lots of theories out there on how to do counselling, and some of them are very helpful and I will draw on them if appropriate, but the most important thing to me is TLC.
The old, old problems that have been causing us distress since humanity acquired consciousness; aging, death, relationships, marriage, divorce, change, what does it all mean, kids, illness, parents, loneliness, menopause, money. That’s not to say that an individual’s feelings don’t matter, of course they do, but a trap that we often fall into is thinking that we are the only one that feels like this. These problems are universal and timeless and counselling can help.
I think it is important to be real; I have worked as a Personnel Manager, Trainer, Employment Specialist, plus working in a call centre, an estate agency and as a Project Manager. And also a Lorry Driver, a Factory Operative and Retail Assistant and a soldier in the Territorial Army. Divorced, bereaved, a Father and Step-Father and having got over my own depression and anxiety. So whilst I’ve trained as a counsellor, I remain very grounded and down to earth, and if my experience is useful when working with someone, then I will share it.